A couple\u2019s wedding plans have hit a rough patch due to a sensitive issue. The groom-to-be is upset because his fianc\u00e9e wants to include photos of her late husband at their wedding. She sees it as a way to honor her past, but he struggles with having the memory of another man on their special day.<\/p>\n
The man shared his story:<\/p>\n
My fianc\u00e9e and I have been together for about 3 years and got engaged 6 months ago.<\/p>\n
While planning, she asked me, \u201cWhere should we put a picture of my late husband?\u201d I was confused and asked her to explain.<\/p>\n
She said she wanted a photo of her late husband at the wedding. She went on to say she wants a bridesmaid to hold his picture during the ceremony, to have his photo on our table, and to hold his picture in most of the wedding photos.I told her I didn\u2019t want that. While I know he\u2019s important to her, I felt uncomfortable having his photos so prominently at our wedding.<\/p>\n
We argued, and she yelled, \u201cI can\u2019t believe you\u2019re jealous! He\u2019s dead!\u201d<\/p>\n
I decided to postpone the wedding, and honestly, I\u2019m thinking of canceling it altogether.<\/p>\n
People stood on his side.<\/p>\n
\u201cOk\u2026I\u2019m a widow of 12 years and this just isn\u2019t right. I understand she may want a memory of him with her but\u2026pictures of him in pictures of you two are just wrong on many levels!! There are many inconspicuous ways of having him with her.
\nYou are 100% right about postponing your wedding and possibly canceling it too. My thoughts are she isn\u2019t ready to move on yet. Why, I don\u2019t know, she needs some counseling to find out or some deep soul-searching.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cShe\u2019s going overboard, and the symbolism is not good. She has to have \u2019a place\u2019 for him, that\u2019s understandable. But there are two stars at the wedding, not three.
\nThis is not about jealousy. It is not about minimizing permanent grief. It\u2019s about if your wife has the capacity to marry you.\u201d<\/p>\n
The symbolism makes it seem like a renewal of vows with OP as a stand-in.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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